Category Archives: The Conversation

Overwhelming Relief

The summer I was 13, I was a live-in babysitter in Golden Valley (a comfortable suburb of Minneapolis – a far cry from the housing projects I lived in). It was a dismal job. The mother was a control freak, I was paid next to nothing, and had a weekly housework schedule to keep up… Continue Reading

The Rooftop Ladies Respond

So, I sent that email of appreciation, and the response was so positive that we decided to get together again. Here is a sampling: I would say the power of the universe was in full force last night connecting us in ways that we could not imagine. I appreciate your willingness to be open and… Continue Reading

The Day After

After writing all morning, I’m still thinking about those women last night on the rooftop of the Women’s Club, and how they responded to my disclosure better than I’d anticipated. I know it won’t always be that way and I’m grateful to them for their collective reaction. I’m so grateful I decide to send them… Continue Reading

The First Time With Strangers

"What are you up to lately?" P. asks – we were in the MAOL program together, but she graduated ahead of me. We haven't seen one another for a few years. "Well – I quit my job. Decided not to look for a new one. And now I'm writing a memoir." Which explains why I'm… Continue Reading

Parental Disclosures

My son’s father had another son before mine, he’s six years older. I lived with my son’s older half-brother for brief periods when he was a kid. He’s in his thirties now. Living in distant states, we’ve never spent much time together since he was little and hadn’t seen each other in several years.  His… Continue Reading

Beginning the Conversation

One of the purposes of writing this book is to examine the process of hiding and revealing, creating a public persona, keeping secrets that threaten that persona, dismantling that persona. I want to examine the impact of secrets on the soul and on the soul's relationship with the world. This book is as much about… Continue Reading

"For a woman to explore and express the fullness of her sexuality, her emotional and intellectual capacities, would entail who knows what risks and who knows what truly revolutionary alteration of the social conditions that demean and constrain her."

-Louise J. Kaplan - Female Perversions