Author Archives: CC

Trusting Men To Navigate

David Deida has written several books about masculine and feminine ‘sexual essences’, sexuality, and relationships. My husband and have read, together, just about all his books and found them really helpful. I think a lot about how to apply the learning’s I’ve been given about intimate male/female dynamics to parallel dynamics in less intimate settings.… Continue Reading

Just Lunch Epilogue 3 – Initial Reaction

So – I get the response and begin to unpack it. First, I’m impressed. It’s taken a month (which I consider good – I didn’t want his instant reflexive reaction) and he’s responding better than I expected. That he didn’t run away is almost astounding. Plus, I instantly want to jump in and amplify all… Continue Reading

Just Lunch Epilogue 2 – His Response

So – I can deduce from the IP address accessing the hidden pages and my stat counter that he’s reading my posts. It takes him a month to respond, which I think is a good sign – at least he hasn’t flown off the handle, though he could be nursing a slow burn. In any… Continue Reading

It’s Just Lunch – Completion

Twenty-fourth in a series [gs *] Another pre-dawn insight – knowledge that comes from the threshold between sleep and waking. This one is not a memory. I’ve been struggling with this lunch series. Loathing it all in certain ways, profoundly fascinated by it in others – like some sick mad scientist who believes he’s uncovered… Continue Reading


All I know of him is his baleful round face, his skin on mine, the power in his bulky brown body and his repeated efforts to drown me. Tina has dragged me to this wading pool every day since Mom left me with the Valentines – a Projects family recently relocated to North Minneapolis. Why… Continue Reading

"For a woman to explore and express the fullness of her sexuality, her emotional and intellectual capacities, would entail who knows what risks and who knows what truly revolutionary alteration of the social conditions that demean and constrain her."

-Louise J. Kaplan - Female Perversions